Slut-Shaming is dumb.

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This post is so unlike me. I mean, so, so unlike me. Normally I find overt feminists a little irritating. (Keep in mind, this is coming from someone who attends an all-girls school, with 2 sisters and no brothers.) Burning your bra, not wearing makeup, and calling yourself “womyn” isn’t going to fix the gender gap. In my opinion, you can be a feminine girl, a masculine girl, or whatever, it doesn’t matter, and it’s up to you. But if I wear a bra or become a housewife (side note: my mother is a stay-at home mom and one of the most successful people I know. Stay-at-home moms RULE.) I’m not undoing years of social reform. Geez.

But that’s not the point of this post. While browsing the likes of Instagram, I came across this picture:

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Seriously? Seriously. Seriously?! Seriously^3?

Okay, maybe I’m not the first blogger to critique the offensiveness and overall stupidity of this photo, but just look at that second photo. Just look at it. I can feel myself losing brain cells as I look at it.

But what I wanted to say was, my boobs can go absolutely anywhere I want. They’re my boobs, after all. And who are you to judge me for that, random Instagram girl? I mean, I can’t necessarily blame a guy if he takes a gander at my breasts if I’m wearing a low-cut shirt, but let’s be real. If I were to see a fine young fella with an attractive 6-pack shirtless, I’d take a nice long gander too. Now that is gender equality. And if you don’t want people to look at your boobs, by all means, cover them up! I’m not criticizing covering your boobs up! But don’t judge girls just because they don’t. I mean, as long as nobody’s making unwelcome advances or harassment, or wearing anything indecent in an innapropriate situation, we’re all good. Leave the caretaking of my boobs to me.

Which brings me to my second offender:

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Let’s recap. I’m a virgin who has never even been with a guy. And yet, this photo makes my blood boil. It’s not up to you to discuss a girl’s sex life. It’s as private if she wants it to be. If she wants to have sex all the time, that’s great. If she wants to remain abstinent, that’s great too. If she enjoys sex, good on her. If she thinks that the entire experience of sex is the devil’s work, that’s super-duper. The point is, her views on sex or sexual experience are not up for discussion, ridicule, or judgement. These things do not make her more or less valuable as a human being, and have no effect on aspects of her life that don’t concern her sex life. Geez, these aren’t the 1800s. Girls don’t need to remain abstinent forever, but they can if they want to. But either way, just MYOB: Mind Your Own Beeswax, and leave it up to her.

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